i gave up…

December 23rd, 2006

haaayy…

ka martyr ba jud nako oi…

how could i possibly tell him nga makig balik n grace wen all i really want is kami duha…grrrrhhhh!

iya ko gitextan to meet him…and as usual, abtik kaayo ni adto…

nag sori xa sa iya gi act earlier that day..kay wa ko niya tagda sa intenet cafe…mao diay kay naa si grace…

"wa man ko kabalo nga muabot diay ka lyn…kung kabalo plang ko, wa unta nako paadtoa si grace..wyl nagkuyog mi ni grace, ikaw ako g huna2x..nahadlok ko tingali nasuko ka nako…"

…ok ra oi…

he asked me kung unsa iya dapat buhaton sa situation annmo ron…

"galibog man gud ko lyn..pareha man gud mo importante nako..kung sa level pa, ka level mo..di ko gusto naay malain nko..pero di man sad gud pede..kung adto ko ni grace, malain ka… kung ikaw sad ako pilion, malain sad xa.."

…"ok raman nako yel..anad naman ko masakitan, sauna pa… kaya raman nako.. pakigbalik ni grace kay kabalo ko love nimo xa… love ka ni grace,,love nimo xa..asa man ko dapat mulugar? wala diba? di ko dapat magpatunga.."

"gi unsa man na nimo pag handle lyn?"

…."ako? anad na lagi ko ani..dugay ra.."

"unsa may imo gi ganahan nako lyn? di man ko worthy para nimo.."

…wa man reason ang love yel..kay once naay rison, its not love anymore…

…ikaw? ngano love ma nimo si grace?

"wa ko kabalo.."

…see? love jud diay nimo xa…

:’(

"wa man ko kabalo kung unsa mi ni grace..wa sad ko kabalo kung unsa ta.."

"naanad naman gud ko nga naa si grace"

…di nalang ko mag samok2x nimo..

"kung naanad man ko nga naa si grace, mas naanas ko nga naa ka.."

…ayaw nalang ko huna2x.a yel…padayon mo…a simple analogy: kung d mo magbalik ni grace, naa ko…padayon ta as friends… pero wyl friends ta, ma feel jud na nako na ganahan jud ka makigbalik n grace…on the other hand, kung makigbalik ka ni grace, walay mawala nimo..naa si grace, naa pud ko.. masakitan gud ko pero ok raman..kaya raman nako.."

"idol jud tika lyn…! nganong dili paman ko sa imo na inlove lyn?"

…i answered him with a question: "nganong sa imo pman ko na inlove yel?"

haaaaayyyyy…

ayel: "bestfriends?"

…unsa diay nang bestfriend?…

more than friends…less than lovers…

haaaayyy….

martyra nako noh?! love nako xa pero ako xa gi ingnan nga adto xa ka grace…coz i know didto xa ma hapy…ouch!

pero ok ra…

kaya ra…

…"basta yel..padayon mo n grace.. usa ramay ako gi hangyo ni grace.. ang alagaan ka, ang tarongon ka pag trit kay i know mao nay maka lipay nimo.."

hahahahayyyy…

dah oi,,,ambot…sakto na…

it’s painful pro it’s the right thing to do…

it’s getting more and more painful..

December 21st, 2006

[ g r a c e ]

the more we became close, the more painful it is to me..

she told me she loves him…

she asked me if she should still trust him…

is she thinking of giving their relationship another chance?!

i don’t know what to answer her..

she asked me if i believe that he loves her..

the hell i do know he loves her!

having her as a friend?! this is much more like a suicide..

just when i thought everything’s fine, all these happen…

bullshiT!!!

i hate this!!

damn! take it away!

bullshit! i feel so stupid!

December 20th, 2006

i have been walking for more than an hour until i finally decided to write these thoughts in my head..

this afternoon, grace and i met (she even brought me a take out from jollibee).. we talked about their breakup (with ayel).. i understood what she felt.. she felt cheated.. yah i really understand because i felt that before, too.. (funny thing is..we felt it for one same guy)

i could feel the pain in her heart.. i wanted to tell her something.. but i dont know what that something is.. arggghhh!

i texted ayel that im with grace.. moments later, he came with two of his friends (arggghh! the other one was so irritating)

it was such an awkward situation.. i wanted to just wak out and go home..

ayel sat beside grace..grace was already between us.. that very moment, i wanted to cry.. it was so painful looking at them together.. much more when they were talking as if i wasnt around..

later, he sat beside me.. that time, i was between them already.. that was the most awkward situation i have ever been to!

i acted like a referee.. i was supposed to stay neutral..

in those moments, i felt tears form in my eyes, ready to fall.. i tried so hard to hide the tears.. good thing those tears didnt fall..

he was sitting so close to me.. nonesense huh!? but to me it seems like a very nice feeling.. a feeling i secretly hoped for..

how could i possibly deal with that kind of situation?!

you’re sitting between the guy you love and the girl he loves..

you dont want to see him hurt..

you dont want to see her hurt, too..

the worst thing is, you are already very hurt..

argghh!!!

where do i really belong?!

where should i stand!?

i’m falling…

i’m dying…

yes! i said it all…!

December 17th, 2006

yesterday, we talked.. the last blog i wrote was about the things i THOUGHT i can never say..

yet, i said it all..

everything that has been bothering me– it went out! wow!

i never thought i could do that..

i think that was one of the bravest things i did in my whole life!

at first, i didn’t know how to start it off.. i was trembling because i was so nervoused..

he broke the silence by asking..i forgot what that was..because that was totally off the thing for that moment..but that started a conversation..

i could feel the tension between us that moment..perhaps he did to..

we talked about stuff..

but still i was so uncomfortable..

i don’t know how it started..but it just came..the topic i we were supposed to talk about just surfaced..

i know i looked kinda stupid while i was trying to explain what i really feel..

ammm…

kuan…

basta…

argghhh…

pero ok ra…

those were the words so dominant…

and of course he didn’t understand it…

he kept asking what his fault was..and for so long, i tried to find the right words to tell him..

"di man sa ingon nga naa kay sala..naa lang kay gibuhat nga naka cause ug struggle sa akoa..

remember the time nga nagbuwag mo ni grace?"

he said, "primi man mi magbuwag…"

"basta, hinumdmi nalang too na time tong nagbuwag mo kay  ingon ka wa ka ganahi sa iya pag trit sa imoha? nya imo ko gi-ask if puede ba ka mu cort nako..tungod ato..nibalik.."

"nibalik ang unsa?"

"basta ni balik..nya kalagot kaayo kay nisulti ka nako ato pag tuesday..then after that day kay wa na ka ni text..pag ka sunday kay nag tex2x mi ni grace ny ani ana xa nga nagbalik mo pagaka wednesday.."

…he still didn’t get my point!

then he asked, "lyn, naa pa ka feelings nako?!"

i cudnt answer the question right away..i just looked away and said to myself "manhid jud diay ka".. "ambot", i answered him..

manhid jud!

to explain it straight, i tried to open my mouth so many times but i can’t just spit the words out..

ambot…

basta..

mao na to..

pero ok ra…

still, he didnt get it..

then finally, i said…

"naka get over n man unta ko nimo yel…ni balik lang tungod atong imo gitext nga mu court kag balik…kalagot! bullshit ka! pag aka wednesday diay kay nakig balik ka nia..feeling nako kay joke ra jud to.. (but that joke meant a lot to me.. it brought back everything i turned away from)"

then, na gets na nia! at last!

"ni balik ang feelings! kasabot!?"

unsa may dapat niya buhaton?

nothing..we’ll just remain friends..as it is..i’m still always there for him whenever he needs me..ok raman nako masakitan because it’s my choice..

"bisag unsaon pa nimo pag ingon nga di ka ganahan sa pag trit sa usa ka tao sa imo, nya naay tao na i trit ka as a very special person, ang tao nga imo love– bisag pirmi ka niya pasakitan– mao r agihapon na ang mag pa happy nimo.."

to clearly explain what i really feel, i sang the song ‘friend of mine’–

I've known you for so long
You are a friend of mine
But babe, is this all we'd ever be
I've loved you eversince
You were a friend of mine
But babe, is this all we ever could be

chorus:
You tell me things I've never known
I showed my love you've never shown
but then again when you cry
im always at your side
you tell me bout the love you've had
i listen very eagerly
but deep inside you'll never see
This feeling of emptiness
It makes me feel sad
But then again, I'm glad

I've known you all my life
You are a friend of mine
I know this is how it's gonna be
I've loved you then and I love you still
You're a friend of mine
I know that friends are all we ever could be

but then again,
but then again
but then again
im glad

…and i think he got it!

he told me things that softened my heart.. if those were true or not– i don’t care..

ka level dw mi ni grace…

really?!

ako sad lipay dayon…

there is something in me saying that i shouldn’t believe him.. but the feeling was just so wonderful..

"gusto ko mag padayon mo ni grace..kay sa iya man ka malipay..ayaw ko huna2x.a.. ok ra ko.."

"swerte kaayo imo mauyab lyn.."

ni ana ko niya ng adi na ko ganahan ma in love ug utro..

"kapoy na kaayo.. kung nasakitan man ko sa imo..i don’t wanna feel it again..sakto na sa ako nga ikaw lang ang tao na ako tagaan ug attention..

..naa r ako pirmi yel..kung kailangan nimo ug ka share.an.. kung naa ka prob, i contact lang ko kay always ko ready basta ikaw…"

i never felt that real to him ever in the history of our friendship.. i hava always been hiding my loneliness behind a happy face.. yesterday, i felt so good..

my sadness was real…

my laughters were real..

i was so real…!

now, i feel like the heaviest burden i have always carried has finally been lifted… thank God!

we’ll go on being friends.. i’ll go on treating him special.. life goes on.. and now, life is better..

things i’ll never say..

December 16th, 2006

again…im here in the same internet cafe where i have written my last blog…

this time, he’s here…

we’re supposed to talk about things…what things?! i really don’t know…

there are so many things i want to tell him…

so many…

but i can’t just spit it out?!

of course…how could i tell him what i really feel!?

ok…let’s pretend i’m talking to him right now… go…

plano na jud unta nako mu larga gabie..ambot ngano ko gahapon..

it seemed like i wanna run away from the pain i get when i’m here in ormoc..i wanna escape from the struggles i am facing…

you are the main reason why i came here in ormoc for Christmas..you kep asking me when i’d be here..you seemed so impatient so i thought you reall wanted to see me..i came here in ormoc because of you..and when i realized i wasn’t really needed here, i lost courage..that’s why i wanted to just go to cebu and escape..

why?

it’s because evrytime we talk, i realize how much you love her..you say you’re hurt..and i am hurt, too… again and again, you say ul cut it off, you say ul end ur relationship..but as what i always tell you, i know, you won’t coz you can’t…you love her so much that you can’t let go of her..i know how it feels– trying to let go of someone you love to get rid of the pain.. and the more you tell me about her, the more i get hurt..

you’re unaware of that..

i don’t know if you just don’t understand or you’re just insensitive..

so many times have i tried to convince myself with this bitter truth.. yes, i understand.. i understand but i dont understand.. arrgghh!

pag ingon ni grace nga imo xa gisundo sa pier, the more i felt sad..i just remembered.. ni ingon man ka nako nga basta m.uli kog ormoc for Christmas kay imo ko sugaton..pero you didn’t..perhaps you have reasons why you didn’t keep your word..still, nalain ko.. pero ok ra..

another thing.. you said mas makaya pa  nimo nga si grace ang mawala kaysa nako..but as i see it, i don’t think that’s true for you.. why? only you have the answer..

i have gotten over you..i thought i did..

i think naka get over naman jud UNTA ko nimo..

ok ra…

ok ra…

an encounter with my high school churva..

December 14th, 2006

anga kaayo ko!

ni duol na unta to si ace nako,,na spchles pa jud ko!! grrrHHH!!!

niilakw nalang nuon xa…

hurt..once more..

December 14th, 2006

again, im here in this internet cafe where i wrote my last blog..

but he’s not here anymore…

my hands are trembling and i dont even know why…

grrrhhh…

just to tell you what happened the last time i was here…

we went to the city playground..and talked and talked and talked…

what did we talk about?!!

it was all bullshit!

it felt so so so bad hearing him say how much he loves her and everything he did for her…all i could do was wish to myself that i was in her place..

yeah…i kept listening…

and the more stories he said about her, the more my heart got broken…

what the hell could i do?!

im just a friend…

bullshit!

"mas boto ako ate nimo kaysa kay grace lyn.. ingon xa feel lang daw nia"

..unsaon taman na nga imo man ate ang naka feel..di man ikaw?…

he gave her flower, too…

what i hate about that day was…when i started talking about sacrifice, he suddenly asked a very irrelevant question!

there i was, grabbing the chance to express myself, hoping he would listen, and shit! he stopped me! insensitive bullshit!

i listened to him all the way..why couldnt he just listen to me for a while?!

insensitive bullshit!

so that day turned out very very very painful…

he said he’d have no fone…and told me to come to this intenet cafe if i wanted to see him..now, im here and he’s not here!

they broke up..i don’t know what i should feel..i don’t have the right, do i?!

i don’t have the right to assume…

i don’t have the right to be hurt…

i don’t have the right to hate…

i dont have the right to feel anything…

damn!

i just feel so… shit!

i hate mysel!

why can’t i just get over?!

i hate him!

why won’t he let me get over him?!

shit!!!

with someone very special…

December 11th, 2006

right now, im here in an internet cafe sa ormoc…

my special friend (i think you know who he is) is here too…

so?!!

what’s the sitch!!???

nahh…

it just feels nice…i don’t know why…and i don’t wanna know why…

i’m not ready to face the answer to my own question…

weird huh!?

well…this is me…weird…

back to that friend sitting 105 degrees from me…

actually, he’s one of the resons why i’m here in ormoc… perhaps the greatest…

why?!

shit! i don’t wanna know…and you wouldn’t wanna know too…

"CARL!!! get hold of your senses! hold it, okay!…

have i warned you to guard that fragile heart of yours…or else it’ll be broken again…"

shit! that voice…

that voice telling me to stop being so foolish…

and yet i don’t seem to absorb what it’s telling me…

wait!

what’s the sitch again?!

arggghhh!!!

he’s special..yes he is…but HE’S JUST A FRIEND!

shut up!!

enough!!

sadness…

December 9th, 2006
Sadness is when you know someone dear will die
When you can see it in their face and in their eye
Sadness is when you can see their pride obstruct
When you can see that they’re about to self-destruct

Sadness is when you can see the frailty of their day
When you can see it in their actions; in every way
Sadness is when you know their every step is in pain
When you can see that there is no way they can remain

Sadness is when too many emotions become dumbfounded
When you yourself feel the weights of life compounded
Sadness is when you have a defined lack of choice
When you can hear death creeping though someone’s voice

Sadness is when you know in a few moments they’ll fail
When you know this person’s soul will soon set sail
Sadness is when they deny their own mortality
When you know there will be one more fatality

Sadness is when you see their remaining time cut short
When you know the treatments are of the horrible sort
Sadness is when you know someone dear will die
When you can see it in their face and in their eye

Sadness is watching someone you care about die a little more every day yet when you ask them how they feel it’s always "oh I’m fine".
from
:http://www.deviantart.com/view/5372716/

a weekend in bacolod…

December 4th, 2006

taking aside all the exams and asynments to do, i excitedly went to bacolod for the visayas-wide cegp convention…aka "lubas"…in bacolod…

thursday, 3 pm, off we went to toledo…the fast craft for san carlos city was about to leave when we arrived in toledo pier…whew!

that fast craft! it was the worst ever! na lipong jud kog maau…

pag abot palang namo sancarlos city, ga dali2x nasad para maapas ang bus to bacolod city…and another struggle…after being sea sick, the bus made me car sick…pero ok lang…i had a chit chat with a man about 40 years old…he was a very nice man…well, most negrenses are…

we arrived in bacolod city about 9 pm…and take note: we havent had dinner by that time yet…

we ate dinner very very late…

mm…kuya micheal accomodated us at his tita’s house for that night..and the place was so….wooow!

1ST DAY:

     as first days usually are, it was more of fun fun and fun…we were oriented with other…

ahhmmmm… sumbody caught my attention…he looks like chito miranda…really…

that silent guy in green…mystery isolated him from us…

we had very few moments together…wa gani to ka notice man lang nako…

basta mura xag c chito…hehehe

solidarity night:::: a band played…ga kiat uroy ko…as usual..heheh

2ND DAY:

     he’s gone! wa na c chito look alike…huhuhuhu…

kapoy naman padayon oi…next time nasad sa 2nd ug 3rd day oi…